the kids love mark ruffalo (who doesn't?)

a few weeks ago (i haven't blogged in forever), i saw the kids are alright. this is the lisa cholodenko (high art, laurel canyon) movie with annette benning and julianne moore as a middle-aged lesbian couple with two teenagers (one for one) who find the dude who donated sperm. that's mark ruffalo. he's this really cool guy who owns a cool restaurant and is big on organic farming. he also ends up totally sleeping with one of the moms. the kids like him at first and then hate him after he tests their parents marriage. it's julianne moore that he sleeps with, there's really no need to keep that from you. they have an affair while she's doing landscape design at his house. he wants her and the kids and to make a life and she's all, dude, i'm f'ing gay. he gets rejected by everyone, and it's sad for him. he wasn't the only one making the mistake. it's like when oz kills veruca in buffy. why does veruca have to die because oz couldn't keep his wolfpants on? i guess he doesn't have wolfpants but you know what i mean. anyway, i hate that mark ruffalo is left out in the cold. he's like this hot swinger hip dude and then when he meets his biokids he gets all gooey and wants a family of his own. but he doesn't get it by the end of the movie. he's just standing outside with his motorcycle, being hated by the moms and the kids. but what i did like and what's sort of helping me now is julianne moore's speech about people making mistakes and relationships being hard. it's easy to hear it from her because she's beautiful and not my wife so what do i care if she sleeps with mark ruffalo? i guess i care because she stays gay. does any of this make any sense? anyway, i am totally jealous of middle aged, middle class people.